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Postby can- » Sun Feb 15, 2015 12:36 pm

using f.lux or avoiding screens after evening is huge for me
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby cormac » Wed Feb 18, 2015 3:40 pm

I commented on a girl's instagram photo of her latte art and this made her instagram direct me and after a 7 hour conversation that strayed far from coffee she gave me her number and now she's saying she's gonna force me to go shopping with her. I don't know the fuck this just happened but I'm enjoying every minute of it, wow
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby silvaeri » Thu Feb 19, 2015 1:48 am

Fuck, parts of this hit way too hard and close to home. I've mentioned before stuff about my dad and how he's not really (and hasn't really been) in most of my life. idk. just wanted to share the video. it's powerful.

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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby igsu » Thu Feb 19, 2015 11:21 am

Almost all of my friends are people I met through friends I had in high school. I completely lack social competence and am often unable to even speak to people I know in public. I often hang out with the friends I have but I'm still pretty lonely.

Feelings-wise, I usually feel boredom or stress. Sometimes, I have fun on the weekends, but it's just becoming so routine that I can predict how nights will end (lonely).
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby maj » Thu Feb 19, 2015 11:41 am

if you self admittedly can predict the routine and are not enjoying it then why subscribe to it? it can be really daunting to challenge stuff like this as we're so used to wanting to feel safe and scared of feeling even more removed than you already are feeling, but if you can overcome this hill the reward is more than worth it. i had this problem with a lot of my friends in high school, they're great friends but we're all so different in interests you never really feel deeply accepted for who you are but you don't want to be removed from the group anymore.

it's here you have to take steps for your happiness, is there a hobby you have? an interest you want to peruse? do you have bands that you want to see? use members of that pre-installed friend base you have to do stuff you're actively interested in and interact with them in a way which benefits you both. for example, i've been clubbing with mates, is it my favorite thing to do every single weekend? not even close twice a year is more than enough for me, but i do know members of that group like bands or restaurants i want to visit and enjoy so i invite them here. you then build stronger relationships with the friends you have as they see you taking an active role in building bridges, but also safety in numbers to use these events to find more friends at these activities who may be more in-tune with your interests.

is it easy? no, not in the slightest it takes a lot of courage for someone with social anxiety's and it's not going to happen overnight, you may be knocked back but don't let that stop you. even if they agree to go with you you may still feel fear, or stress while doing these activities you enjoy as it uncharted territory this is natural, most people don't get on a bike and instantly ride it for the first time even though they want to learn and do it. it all comes back to this practice and wanting to do something.

you can do this, and it's hard at first but the greatest waves start of as tiny ocean ripples.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby igsu » Thu Feb 19, 2015 3:36 pm

I appreciate it. I just don't really know how to make friends. I often prefer being alone to being with people I'm not comfortable with but it just gets kind of lonely.

And idk about my schedule. I already go to concerts occasionally, write for a local publication, participate in a fashion design group, and take 15 hours. And I'll probably start hitting the gym again soon. I just feel extremely busy, but none of these things really bring me friendships. I feel like I'll make more good friends over time but I'm just impatient.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby pirxthepilot » Fri Feb 20, 2015 6:15 pm

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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Prince of Scandinavia » Sat Feb 21, 2015 9:51 am

I matched with this girl on Tinder about a week ago and noticed that she followed me on tumblr, and that I follow her (yes another tumblr girl..). We wrote a bit and after two days of writing she asked if we should get a cup of coffee, which I was ecstatic about. We planned it for friday (yesterday) and I was fucking nervous. She is really really really beautiful, and I honestly had no idea why SHE asked me out. We planned to meet up at this coffee shop, and turns out there are two of them and I was at the wrong one, so already there it went wrong. But I made it to the other coffee shop and we started talking. It was really awkward at first but it became really fun after half an hour. I could tell she was really nervous because she kept saying "God dammit (her name) that was so awkward saying that". But I liked it. She talks a fucking ton and she can talk about fucking ANYTHING and really anywhere, and I like it. We ended up talking for 8 hours, going to a few coffee shops and eating some lunch at McDonalds at 11pm because we hadn't been eating anything all day. We walk to her car and she drives me home. I sat in her car for what felt like half an hour trying to get myself to kiss her goodnight, but she was way too nervous so I just called it a night. Then 5 minutes after she drove off, she texted me why the fuck I didn't kiss her. We planned to meet up again soon and make up for that mistake (smiling)
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby sknss » Sat Feb 21, 2015 2:29 pm

talking for 8 hours sounds like an absolute nightmare
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Prince of Scandinavia » Sat Feb 21, 2015 2:36 pm

sknss wrote:talking for 8 hours sounds like an absolute nightmare


Not if you're having fun or actually interested in knowing the person.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby brlmski » Mon Feb 23, 2015 7:07 pm

i want to find something i want to pour my life into.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby nexus6 » Mon Feb 23, 2015 7:30 pm

Since my friend died last year, I've truly came to realize that life is really fragile.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby finolino » Mon Feb 23, 2015 11:17 pm

might not be 'feeltalk' per se, but it's still a problem of mine that's been lingering over me for the past few months

for the past few months, my life has been very reminiscent of the movie groundhog day. i wake up, go to school, do all my hw and then browse various fashion forums while in school (because i have the good fortune of not being put into any of the same classes as my friends + two study halls), go swimming, go home, and then go back to fashion browsing / watching netflix (no cable) / staring blankly at my computer screen trying and failing to think of something to do, and then go to bed. on weekends i'll wake up, go swimming again, come back home, nap, then maybe go out in a predictable manner if i'm in the mood. all in all, though, the weeks have all become the exact same. it's been ridiculously boring, yet there's nothing really i can think of to make it better; nevertheless, i'm looking for a way to break the cycle of monotony.

basically, what i'm asking here is if anyone of you have any tips on how to make life interesting in times like this? anything to do for fun to get my mind off how bored i am all the time? any fun websites for when i'm bored in study hall (NOT reddit, working to get away from there), books, shows, or films you guys have been into lately? i'm just looking to try as many new things as possible so that the next three months aren't the longest of my life.

if anything, though, the good that has come from this is that i know i won't want to fall into the stereotypical, 9-to-5, disgruntled worker trope, so yay on that at least!

edit: @nick actually been drumming for about 9 years now. had to move my kit out to my uncle's place in michigan (from chicago) and haven't had the time to go pick it up again, though... >:(
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Suquida » Tue Feb 24, 2015 1:00 am

finolino wrote:might not be 'feeltalk' per se, but it's still a problem of mine that's been lingering over me for the past few months

for the past few months, my life has been very reminiscent of the movie groundhog day. i wake up, go to school, do all my hw and then browse various fashion forums while in school (because i have the good fortune of not being put into any of the same classes as my friends + two study halls), go swimming, go home, and then go back to fashion browsing / watching netflix (no cable) / staring blankly at my computer screen trying and failing to think of something to do, and then go to bed. on weekends i'll wake up, go swimming again, come back home, nap, then maybe go out in a predictable manner if i'm in the mood. all in all, though, the weeks have all become the exact same. it's been ridiculously boring, yet there's nothing really i can think of to make it better; nevertheless, i'm looking for a way to break the cycle of monotony.

basically, what i'm asking here is if anyone of you have any tips on how to make life interesting in times like this? anything to do for fun to get my mind off how bored i am all the time? any fun websites for when i'm bored in study hall (NOT reddit, working to get away from there), books, shows, or films you guys have been into lately? i'm just looking to try as many new things as possible so that the next three months aren't the longest of my life.

if anything, though, the good that has come from this is that i know i won't want to fall into the stereotypical, 9-to-5, disgruntled worker trope, so yay on that at least!

edit: @nick actually been drumming for about 9 years now. had to move my kit out to my uncle's place in michigan (from chicago) and haven't had the time to go pick it up again, though... >:(


I can relate to this very heavily

For me, at least, just spending more time *out* has helped a lot. I recently got a laptop and now enjoy spending time at the coffee shop I frequent to study, just seeing people and being seen, being a part of the hustle and bustle I guess? Sitting inside just looking at my computer is a really bad habit that I needed to break. I've started enjoying doing errands for this reason, lol, and because of that I've been looking for excuses just to go out to the grocery store and stuff and always being around ingredients has sorta developed into me cooking more, learning new recipes etc (that's also an invaluable thing to pick up and learn if you're looking for things and don't already know how)

But yeah I guess just doing typical "boring" daily things like that has helped a ton, being cooped up inside when you can be doing anything else is always gonna lead to feelings like the ones you're having, just be productive even if it doesn't seem like it'll be fun, fall into habits like that

p.s. if I lived in a big city like you I could see myself out doing a ton of urban exploration whenever I get bored, just saiyan'
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby 3hunna » Wed Feb 25, 2015 7:58 am

@finolino
Find a specific thing that is interesting to you and try to become as knowledgeable as you can about it. It could be an author, a film or music genre, a period in art, a philosophical idea, or anything similar to that. Try to gain personal insight on the topic if possible. This provides purpose and direction, and also can be quite fun.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby agvs » Wed Feb 25, 2015 10:40 am

finolino wrote:might not be 'feeltalk' per se, but it's still a problem of mine that's been lingering over me for the past few months

for the past few months, my life has been very reminiscent of the movie groundhog day. i wake up, go to school, do all my hw and then browse various fashion forums while in school (because i have the good fortune of not being put into any of the same classes as my friends + two study halls), go swimming, go home, and then go back to fashion browsing / watching netflix (no cable) / staring blankly at my computer screen trying and failing to think of something to do, and then go to bed. on weekends i'll wake up, go swimming again, come back home, nap, then maybe go out in a predictable manner if i'm in the mood. all in all, though, the weeks have all become the exact same. it's been ridiculously boring, yet there's nothing really i can think of to make it better; nevertheless, i'm looking for a way to break the cycle of monotony.

basically, what i'm asking here is if anyone of you have any tips on how to make life interesting in times like this? anything to do for fun to get my mind off how bored i am all the time? any fun websites for when i'm bored in study hall (NOT reddit, working to get away from there), books, shows, or films you guys have been into lately? i'm just looking to try as many new things as possible so that the next three months aren't the longest of my life.

if anything, though, the good that has come from this is that i know i won't want to fall into the stereotypical, 9-to-5, disgruntled worker trope, so yay on that at least!

edit: @nick actually been drumming for about 9 years now. had to move my kit out to my uncle's place in michigan (from chicago) and haven't had the time to go pick it up again, though... >:(


I'd recommend getting off your computer (yeah I'm a dad whatever) as much as you can, same for tv/movies. They might help pass the time quickly but I find real life activities way more satisfying and engaging. Try to do 1 new thing each day no matter how small, even taking a new way home or something. Everyone gets in a routine funk once in a while and I know it's hard to get out of it. You really have to force yourself to do things even if you don't feel like it. Give cooking a shot. Desserts/baking in particular can take a lot of time and be very involved so they keep your mind occupied. It's also something you can do at home if you don't like going out and you get to eat a bunch of stuff.

finolino wrote:if anything, though, the good that has come from this is that i know i won't want to fall into the stereotypical, 9-to-5, disgruntled worker trope, so yay on that at least!


Not to crush your dreams or anything but don't yay so fast. Most people that feel the same way but end up in a routine job anyway. It's not as bad as it sounds. Well, sometimes it is.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Prince of Scandinavia » Thu Feb 26, 2015 6:34 pm

Well the thing with the tumblr girl crashed and burned faster than anticipated.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Prince of Scandinavia » Thu Feb 26, 2015 7:39 pm

Prince of Scandinavia wrote:Well the thing with the tumblr girl crashed and burned faster than anticipated.


I found that it doesn't matter how beautiful she is, funny and how much in common we have. If you can't express your intentions. I could have done a lot more, but I also feared that if I said I wanted it to be serious, then we wouldn't see each other again. Now following each other on tumble and instagram only made our communication worse. Instead of asking about each others day or what they were doing or what ever, we would just look at each others profiles. There was a lot of misinterpretations in even the smallest of things. And we didnt talk about it. I was sick and cancelled our last date. Today she cancelled our date saying she had an assignment she forgot about. I told her if she wanted to see me, she should text me. She said she did but it felt half assed. So I wrote saying that we probably shouldn't. If we wanted each other, our dates would have happened.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Yoder » Thu Feb 26, 2015 7:54 pm

i know logic isn't the end all when it comes to emotions and feeltalk, but that really just makes no sense to me.. Sounds like you're over thinking it and trying to rely too much on fate than effort. Maybe I am just reading too far into things with too little information though.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Prince of Scandinavia » Fri Feb 27, 2015 4:12 am

Yoder wrote:i know logic isn't the end all when it comes to emotions and feeltalk, but that really just makes no sense to me.. Sounds like you're over thinking it and trying to rely too much on fate than effort. Maybe I am just reading too far into things with too little information though.


I was really over thinking it. But yeah there was also missing a lot of context in what I wrote.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby frogosaurus » Fri Feb 27, 2015 10:47 am

For whatever reason I can't shake the feeling that your late 20's is a horrible age
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby hooplah » Mon Mar 02, 2015 10:56 pm

did not do well enough on my lsat to get into the only school i'm interested in going to

sucks because i spent $600ish on a prep course and $150ish on the test itself, plus countless hours studying and shit, and my score only raised 2 points from last time. my boyfriend and i just broke up, i think partly because of all the time i was needing to spend alone to study.

and it was all for nothing. if i want to go to law school i have to retake this fucking test in june, but i'm not sure i want to go through this again. i told myself my score on this test could maybe be a sign/decider of whether i truly should pursue law school; my score is a resounding no.

i feel so fucking bummed and generally completely lost in life
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby yoyobeat » Tue Mar 03, 2015 1:13 am

hooplah wrote:did not do well enough on my lsat to get into the only school i'm interested in going to

sucks because i spent $600ish on a prep course and $150ish on the test itself, plus countless hours studying and shit, and my score only raised 2 points from last time. my boyfriend and i just broke up, i think partly because of all the time i was needing to spend alone to study.

and it was all for nothing. if i want to go to law school i have to retake this fucking test in june, but i'm not sure i want to go through this again. i told myself my score on this test could maybe be a sign/decider of whether i truly should pursue law school; my score is a resounding no.

i feel so fucking bummed and generally completely lost in life


@hooplah really sorry to hear all of this. Hugs. I know what it feels like to try very hard to make something happen while at the same time money goes down the drain towards supposedly important things, relationships crumble, and then nothing comes out of the main effort in the first place.

The period of feeling lost is actually a really good one in its shittiness, because by being lost, you put yourself in a position where you must make decisions (versus floating along on cruise control). The decisions are fucking difficult and come with lots of second-guessing yourself, you can get through it.

You didn't mention what you wanted to do post law school, with the law degree from the school you really wanted to go to. If you had something in mind after you got your degree, I can assure you that you getting rejected from this one school will not be the deciding factor as to whether or not those post-degree plans happen. And if you didn't have something specific in mind to do after law-school, then think about what *that* might mean---why was it so important that you go to this one school in the first place?

There's still a lot of time before June if you choose to retake the test, and maybe you can search for other ways to study that'll be better for your learning style than the course you were using. When the self-doubt hits, remember that you're a perfectly capable, smart person regardless of test scores and acceptance letters. Hang in there!
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby saveed_samir » Tue Mar 03, 2015 9:35 am

FUCKKKKK IT
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Prince of Scandinavia » Tue Mar 03, 2015 2:53 pm

I was too quick to judge regarding the tinder girl. My temper was through the roof that day and sadly I threw it all. But I wrote her back the day after and said sorry and we chatted for a bit and agreed to still do the date today. So we spent 8 hours together again in my appartment just watching shit on netflix, eating pizza, drinking licorice tea and having sex. It was great. Can't wait to see what comes out of this (smiling)

Edit: mc-lunar, definitely learned a lesson! :D
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby Prince of Scandinavia » Tue Mar 03, 2015 4:28 pm

@iliam "wait was it a tumber or tinder girl social media applications r impirtant"

Tumblr and tinder.
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby hooplah » Tue Mar 10, 2015 7:56 pm

hey guys i just wanted to thank everyone for your kind thoughts and words of encouragement re: my post above, especially @yoyobeat (seriously thanks for taking the time out of your day to specifically address and help with a stranger's problems, you are too awesome). i was so distraught and overwhelmed at that point and everyone made me feel a little bit better.

not really sure what i'm going to do career-wise. might re-take the LSAT, but also just applied to a cool job at apple that i will probably never hear back about. who knows what the future holds.

anyways, thanks guys. you rule
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby sparkyoriental » Tue Mar 10, 2015 9:15 pm

It just dawned on me today how incredibly happy I've been the past year. Not everything has gone perfectly, but I've been overwhelmingly content, cheerful, and positive regardless of the outside world. I can't remember the last time I've cried out of sadness (outside of books/movies), but I laugh everyday.

:DDDD
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby teck » Thu Mar 12, 2015 10:56 am

yo this ferguson shit is terrible
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Re: feeltalk thread

Postby thephfactor » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:27 pm

Friend shared that they tried to end their life earlier this week. Not sure what to do/say/feel but hoping I can be a positive force in their life.
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