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Top 10 Strangers

Postby p3rn » Tue Dec 31, 2019 8:04 am

As the year comes to a close I like to remember all the nice interactions I had with strangers. good reminder that as shit as things can be, strangers also have the capacity to bring a lot of small, good moments into our lives. post ur own lists too if you've got them.

  1. The man who I met while unlocking my bike at the Tate Modern who rode with me for a while, just chatting, until we went our separate ways at Blackfriar’s bridge
  2. Maddie, a waitress at Peg who is very kind and remembered me after I’d just been there once
  3. The man who let me on the overnight train from Zugdidi to Tbilisi despite my passport not matching the information on my ticket. True hero.
  4. Tom Love from the Thom Browne store. Great energy, very kind, excellent name.
  5. The two straight Americans at Chapter 10 who helped pull me out of a weird anxiety spiral on my birthday. They may have been a mirage.
  6. Ashraf, also a stranger from the club, who has such a warm and friendly demeanour we were all astounded by it when we met him
  7. The man who shared an Uber pool with me and complimented the cake I’d baked for illiam’s birthday
  8. The man at Archway station who asked for one of my Lussekatt buns and offered me cigarettes or a sip of his vodka coke the morning after the general election (did not accept, did give him a bun)
  9. The German man who we crossed paths with twice while hiking in Georgia. The first time he warned us that a bridge up the trail was out and we should cross the river immediately. The second time he negotiated with one of the drivers in Ushguli in Russian for us. Very much appreciated.
  10. The man outside the Wetherspoons in Elephant and Castle who asked my friend why he hadn’t made me his lady yet because “well I think she’s hot!”. Thank you, it was very affirming.
    bonus: every friend who started the year a stranger. I treasure you all.
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby bels » Thu Jan 02, 2020 5:51 am

I'll try a top five

5. The Spanish vets who I got talking to at the pub when I brought my houseguest from italy there. They recommended that I get pet insurance for my cat (I've still not done it but I should)
4. The woman who struck up a conversation with me outside the art gallery whilst we were unlocking our bikes. Extremely rare straight male uninitiated flirt that I will treasure probably for the next five years.
3. Carlos, the owner of Carlos BBQ who recommended I have zataar on my chips instead of peri peri salt, because "They put all sorts in peri peri salt." I disagree with him, but zataar isn't too bad as an alternative.
2. The extremely, powerfully stoned bearded guy at the hostel I stayed at in Shropshire who managed to be extremely diligent about our various dietary requirements whilst communicating to us from a planet many lightyears away.
1. Marsi, the barista at a coffee shop I hate who is really, really good.
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby BIGBEE » Thu Jan 02, 2020 9:57 am

Thank you to all the ups drivers. I worked with all great. And the teen that told me to listen to joe Rogan (it changed his life).
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby jrisk » Thu Jan 02, 2020 11:01 am

1. My neighbor, Kelly, who lives a block up the street. I actually haven't met her but I've always admired all the plants she keeps on her front porch in the summer. I left a stromanthe on her porch with a note saying this and she left me a jackfruit plant with a really nice note.
2. The couple that let my friend and I warm up and smoke a joint in their truck in a trailhead parking lot in the White Mountains while waiting for AAA after I lost my car keys on the trail.
3. Woman at the library book sale who let me take a CD for free because they're normally 4 for a dollar and I only wanted one.
4. Man wearing a cool jacket who sat next to me on a flight home and jumped out of his seat when the plane parked, remembered where I put my bag in the overhead (much further back) and asked people to pass it forward for me so I didn't have to wait for everyone to get off.
5. New salon client who came into the office and said I had really nice hair.
6. Mechanic at my garage who went the extra mile and made sure I got reimbursed for brakes that were still under warranty.
7. Someone on FB marketplace who gave me a great working dyson vacuum for FREE.
8. A family of neighbors who stopped shoveling and helped push my car up the hill and into my driveway.
9. Owner of a local thrift store who pulled out a bunch of cardigans from storage that she thought I would like and I found one that was perfect.
10. Literally every librarian at my library. They're so nice, they give good recommendations and compliment my book choices.
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby rjbman » Thu Jan 02, 2020 3:58 pm

yall have way better memory than me
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby p3rn » Fri Jan 03, 2020 1:40 pm

Remembering strangers feels like this really daunting task until you start it and suddenly more will come to you. Good situations to get the ball rolling: did you flirt with anyone this year? take any solo trips? have dinner alone at the bar and chat with a seatmate? how about any public transport moments (someone was yelling and you and your neighbour shared an oh-geez look)? made any big purchases you were helped with? chat to someone in the smoking area at a club or show?

If you still can't remember any strangers maybe use this to try to make note of strangers you meet in 2020.
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby p3rn » Fri Jan 01, 2021 7:04 pm

Another year gone by which means it's time to bring back the top 10 strangers chat. Obviously it's been much harder to really meet strangers this year, but in other ways we've become far more reliant on them. Here's my top 10:

  • The man at Highgate Whole Foods who is always extremely kind to me and gives me free medjool dates when I see him.
  • The man who stopped me on my walk through the park to tell me he really liked my rick owens vest and that from behind it looked like I was going to take off flying at any moment
  • The woman in my mutual aid group text who regularly requests that someone pick up butter and a bottle of sherry from the shops for her, often before noon. She knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask for it.
  • The depop user who asked me for “my lowest” and when I replied “what are you on about, mate you’re selling them in a different size for £30 MORE than mine” said “fair enough” and bought mine off me full price. Ideal interaction.
  • The man who scoffed at me loudly from a park bench when he heard me tell a friend that I found a liter of wine too much to go through solo (“give it here, I’ll drink it”)
  • Paul, the customer service representative at Nat West who helped me open a new savings account and chatted to me for a bit about the US (where we’re both from), asked how I got to the US, and made me feel good about my savings in general
  • Siobhan at Browns East who’s always been an unbelievable sweetheart to me and Peg (the dog I came in with once)
  • The women working at the little market store at Llwyngwril who were very chill and told us not to rush when getting our groceries.
  • The DJ (SuSu LaRoche, I think) who played a lot of, like, screamo at the NYE party I went to (one year ago, not last night). I feel like no one was into it except me but I was REALLY into it. After a set of very generic house music it was incredibly welcome.
  • Andy, the middle aged man from whom I bought a pair of earrings. He lives in a very charming home near london fields and was covered in piercings and tattoos. very friendly!
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby AARON » Mon Jan 04, 2021 11:58 am

grocery store manager who told me he really liked my acg cargo pants and said "haven't seen pants like these since the 80s"
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby 106-2 » Mon Jan 04, 2021 7:21 pm

started working in a secondary school so it's made up for the lack of interaction from the first 9 months of the year. don't know if I'm pushing the definition of 'stranger', but similar vibes:
1. the kid who said he really thought my hair was 'great' when his classmates were taking the piss out of it
2. the (separate) group of kids who call me 'cauliflower' bc i'm white and have blond-ish curly hair
3. the old guy who was always sat outside his front door down the road from me when i set off doing food parcel deliveries - got a good 'nod of mutual approval' routine going with him
4. shaun at aldi - sounds like a garage mc
5. the kid who got lost walking in a straight line through the school, showed up 15 mins later with his head of year
6. guy at the bike shop who never remembered me, but commented on how much he liked my bike every time i brought it in as though he'd never seen it before
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby bels » Tue Jan 05, 2021 11:15 am

* The guy who bought my Miu Miu anorak from me. He was called "Miles Davis" and when I checked his address on Google maps I found it was an a detached house on a street of terraces with a 90s Jaguar XJ on the drive. I can only imagine what kind of "character" he must be.
* Totally insane white guy with dreads who lost his shit at the staff at the food cooperative at the start of the pandemic. He was really mad they weren't stocking stuff faster and got into an altercation with the manager who told him to leave. He went out to his convertible saab 9-3 with a large black labrador in the back who looked like they deserved a nicer owner.
* Guy who started talking to me when I went into a pub in Walton-on-the-Naze. I just wanted to use the bathroom but ended up in a conversation with this guy who told me that he lost his virginity "on the Naze." I tried to make a joke and said "which one" meaning "which Naze" but he just looked confused then pointed at his dick and said "this one."
* The lovelorn graffito who wrote the following on the stall door of a public bathroom on the seafront:
Spoiler:
ImageIn pencil:
"To the cute little thing I met 9 yrs ago washing his hands in the sink with no shirt on please get in touch with me I'd like to meet you again, I had a blue grey striped top on and a piercing between my eyes. Phone me on REDACTED"
Then underneath in darker pen:
"To the cute little thing I met here 10 years ago.
I went to a psychic and she said you might not want to ring. _Please Do!!!_"

* Tiny old lady I see walking a tiny scottish terrier who wears a tiny dog jacket. They both seem very frail but she's always out with the dog, even in shit weather.
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby jylt » Tue Jan 05, 2021 3:47 pm

i was hiking with a friend in shenandoah (adjacent/intersects with the appalachian trail) and on our descent i was explaining very loudly some taylor swift drama, particularly the situation where her exploitative manager had control of her masters. and two cute hikers on the way up overheard me were like: "damn, i didn't know about all of that, i hope she figures that out."
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby fun_yunchables » Thu Jan 07, 2021 5:02 pm

here's some nice interactions i remember

1. the nice viet auntie in dorchester who was helping me unload my huge-ass costco run into the community fridge in the freezing night. she spoke some canto so i got to chat a little bit with my elementary "sik gong yat dim gwong dong wah"
2. the older punk dude w/ the mohawk at the skate park. super chill and was trying to teach me sweepers, thanks for being patient lol
3. the taiwanese sounding (maybe fujianese? mando accent v similar) girl who works at tao's beauty in allston in getting my skincare level further up
4. the super nice taiwanese auntie at that taiwanese bakery i always go to and says i'm way too skinny and should buy more bread (lol)
5. that one dude at yifang taiwan fruit tea in flushing. u the king, thanks for always supplying the FIRE joeng zi gam lo drink
6. that super chill guy at seven stars book store who always welcomes me in with the most relaxed "hi, hope you're having a lovely day." and thanks for finding that e.f. schumacher book for me
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Re: Top 10 Strangers

Postby iralanwitnuk » Tue Jan 12, 2021 5:56 pm

* woman who paid for my tomatoes at the farmers market bc i didn't have cash
* old guy named John who asked to take my picture in a park. after i asked him what the picture was for he kept repeating "Who knows... Who knows... Who knows..." as he walked away
* all the people i'd exchange a nod w on the bus in the morning but never talk to
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