phil wrote: ↑Tue Dec 10, 2024 7:23 pm
I struggle with this a bit since the time of me being active on here coincided with a weird and largely unhappy period in my life. I feel some embarrassment about the artifacts from that time and not a lot of desire to relive it. But on the other hand, through the forum I was able to feel part of a community in some way at a time I needed that the most. Will always be grateful for that, and for the footprint as a record of it.
this is NOT meant to dismiss your point at all, just for clarity, just adding my own perspective
I had the opposite experience with care-tags, it coincided with an extremely happy and fulfilled period of my life where I was 16-18 years old, in high school, was swimming really often, and because I had finished my growth spurt (and my mom was deeply caring about me, and my parents were doing well enough) I could finally use info from here and /r/mfa about brands aimed at adults and fashion in general
the way people self-fashioned on here while consciously saving themselves from excessive consumption / spending-aesthetics + the way people on here respected other people's individuality and tried to fashion (heh) statements for one-another in a way that's empathetic and positive, each of these I think was massively formative for me
I think the level of critical attention to clothing on here, without brand-worship, with some level of attention to abstract information / valuing doing research and investigating one's own interest, I just haven't been able to find anywhere else. that makes sense, my experience with the forum destroys conscious interest in fashion by name and really replaced it with conscious interest in life.
I have desire to relive it, I might have actually needed this site's help coming to peace with clothing like 2yrs ago (something that helped me a lot instead is getting fat and there not being a grailed app for android)
'I feel like I'm a messenger .. sent here by someone .. my mom, probably.'